Do You Expect Too Much? Give Yourself a Break!
Do any of these feel familiar?
- Things are getting done but it feels like it’s only by blind luck or chance rather than design
- You’re barely treading water with all the tasks, apt, obligations on your plate
- You fantasize about more time for leisure or healthy habits like yoga, meditation, exercise?
- You feel like a fraud? You hold it together in your professional life but fear if people saw how you managed your home or your personal life, they’d be shocked?
- You say “no” all the time and it still isn’t enough?
If the list above feels familiar, stop and reflect on how you are already accomplishing a full and active life.
Ask yourself these questions:
- Do critical items such as bills and deadlines mostly get handled?
- Are your kids going off to school fed and clothed?
- Are your kids’ interests being supported?
- Do you move your body or do some form of physical activity?
- Do you maintain regular contact with your friends?
- Do you show up to work regularly? Are you doing an okay job at work?
- Is your home functioning to support your basic living needs?
True, there’s always room for improvement in some or all these areas but we often see people measuring themselves against a completely unrealistic standard of what they think they are “supposed” to be doing. Holding onto unrealistic expectations is setting yourself up to feel perpetually overwhelmed and underachieving.
In our modern world, with access to unlimited information and means to acquire things, many of us have raging expectations — wanting our homes to look like a magazine — wanting our bodies to age without showing — wanting our relationships to look perfect — wanting to avoid making mistakes — wanting to give our kids every opportunity for enrichment and advancement.
So, ARE you disorganized?
Like most of us, probably a bit. But it’s possible you’re being unrealistic and not appreciating how hard you’re working and how much you’re accomplishing every day.
Take a step back and savor the life you have, accepting what you have is “good enough.” You can still dream for “more and better.”